Visiting an Orthodox church for the first time can feel exciting and a little intimidating. Whether you’re simply curious, were invited by a friend, or feel your heart being drawn to the beauty of Orthodox worship, knowing what to expect will make your first visit easier and more meaningful.
In this guide, you’ll learn step-by-step what happens during an Orthodox church service, how to dress, where to stand, and the basic etiquette for newcomers so you can feel at peace instead of wondering if you’re "doing it wrong."
Before we dive in, here’s a helpful first step: find your local Orthodox parish’s website and email, introduce yourself briefly, and ask the priest if it’s alright for you to attend the Divine Liturgy. That simple message opens the door for everything that follows.
What to Wear to an Orthodox Church and How to Prepare
It is best to decide what you will wear at least a day before attending. Orthodox churches are sacred spaces, and modest, respectful clothing is encouraged.
Guidelines for men:
- Avoid sleeveless shirts.
- Wear long trousers and closed, comfortable shoes.
- Choose a modest shirt; in warmer months, sleeves may be rolled to the elbows.
- Avoid bright patterns or noticeable logos to maintain a humble appearance.
Guidelines for women:
- Wear skirts or dresses that fall below the knee.
- Choose tops with sleeves to at least the elbow and closed, comfortable shoes.
- Head coverings are not required in most parishes, but many choose to wear a scarf or veil as a sign of respect. You may carry one with you if unsure.
In all cases, clothing should be clean, modest, and suitable for worship in the presence of God.
Arriving at the Church
When you enter, pause for a moment to prepare yourself for worship. You may see people lighting candles, venerating icons, or bowing quietly. If you wish, make the sign of the Cross by bringing your first three fingers together and touching your forehead, abdomen, right shoulder, and then left shoulder. If you are unfamiliar with the customs, remain still and observe respectfully.
The Orthodox liturgy is not a performance but the worship of God and a sacred meeting of Heaven and Earth. Enter with respect and attention.
Where to stand:
- Traditionally, men stand on the right side of the church and women on the left. Visitors may stand with the person who brought them if they prefer.
- Standing is the standard posture during the liturgy, as a sign of respect and participation in worship.
- Now you know why comfortable shoes are highly recommended.
During the Liturgy
The liturgy will begin with the clergy entering, and incense will be used as part of the service. Some prayers may be in Greek, Arabic, Old Church Slavonic, or another traditional language, alongside the local language. Even if you do not understand every word, you can still enter into the prayer through attentive listening and stillness.
You will notice worshippers bowing, crossing themselves, and responding softly with “Amin.” You are not required to do everything; simply follow along quietly and reverently.
When uncertain:
- Cross yourself slowly and deliberately.
- Bow as a sign of humility.
- If you are unsure, remain still and observe.
Communion
During the Eucharist, those who are baptized or chrismated Orthodox Christians, have fasted, and have recently confessed may approach to receive Holy Communion. If you are not Orthodox or have not prepared in this way, remain where you are. You are still fully participating in the liturgy through prayer and presence.
After the Liturgy
Once the service concludes, you may approach the priest to introduce yourself. Wait until he is free, then greet him politely and say:
"Hi, Father. It’s my first time here."
The priest may ask your name, offer a blessing, or simply welcome you. This small step helps you begin a connection with the parish community.
Quick FAQ for First-Time Visitors
Do I need to speak Greek, Russian, or another language to attend an Orthodox church?
No. Most parishes use a mix of English and traditional liturgical languages. Just follow along.
Do I need to bring anything?
No. If you want, you can light a candle (usually with a small donation), but it’s not required.
Can I sit if I get tired?
Yes. Standing is traditional, but there are usually benches or chairs along the sides.
Can I take photos?
Usually no during the service. If you want to take a picture of the church afterward, ask the priest first.
Can I attend an Orthodox church service without participating?
Absolutely. The first visit is often about simply experiencing.
Quick Dos and Don’ts
DO:
- Dress modestly.
- Arrive a little early.
- Silence your phone.
- Follow what the locals do.
- Ask the priest questions afterward if you want to learn more.
DON’T:
- Bring food or drinks inside.
- Talk during the service.
- Wander around taking photos.
- Try to receive Communion if you’re not Orthodox (even if other traditions tell you it’s okay.).
- Treat the liturgy like a performance.
If You Still Don’t Know How to Start – Write to the Priest
One of the simplest and most helpful things you can do before stepping into an Orthodox church for the first time is to write a short email to the parish priest.
This isn’t about formality, it’s about respect and connection. In Orthodoxy, the parish priest is your first shepherd in the faith. By writing ahead, you not only prepare yourself, but you also give him the chance to welcome you personally when you arrive. That first warm greeting can turn a nervous visit into the start of a friendship in Christ.
Example of the email you can use:
Subject: First-Time Visit to [PARISH NAME]Father, bless.
My name is [YOUR NAME] and I live in [YOUR CITY]. I have never attended an Orthodox service before, but I would very much like to visit [PARISH NAME] for the Divine Liturgy.
Would it be alright if I came this Sunday? If possible, I would also be grateful for a few minutes to speak with you privately after the service. [THIS IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO START YOUR JOURNEY IN ORTHODOXY]Thank you for your time, and I look forward to meeting you.
In Christ,
[YOUR FULL NAME]
Final Words - Just Come Back
Visiting an Orthodox church for the first time can feel overwhelming: the ancient chants, flickering candles, waves of incense... But if you stand quietly, if you let your heart breathe, you might sense something you didn’t expect: peace and love.
Don’t overthink it. Don’t wait until you feel "ready". Don’t wait to "know everything". Just come back. And come back again. That’s how everyone began.
Christ is here. And He’s been waiting for you far longer than you realize.
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